Monday, September 25, 2006

At Least I Go Back to the Dentist Tomorrow

When we were first figuring out if we could/should adopt through foster care now or in 5/10/15 years, The Hub and I agreed on The Rule of No. Basically, if one of us says no, we both say no.

The Rule of No was put into action today for the first time.

That's all. I'm feeling deflated and sad and kind of angry, but I tell myself it is for the best. We are probably not ready for 3 under 3, and the kids deserve people who are over the moon about them.

My mom has been trying to cheer me up by telling me how hard it would have been, how everything will work out. It just makes me cry harder.

6 comments:

Margaret said...

I'm sorry. It's so hard. The No's take a little chunk of you with them every time. But these kids shouldn't be hard to place. Three little ones will find their home.

Pool Snapshot said...

Quite normal that you are battling with all those feelings.
You know, I do like this Rule of No. We have it to. At the same time, when the No is not coming from me, it makes it much harder. I also know that I cannot raise a child on my own so I need to make sure that I get 100% support in the decision.
It is jsut hard to have to say no to children that are just ready to be loved. But one has to know their own limit...

Laura said...

New lurker from Baggage's site. Just wanted to say I'm sorry.

Kate said...

that is sad. However, it would be even sadder if it didn't work out and it's really really brave that you are going with your head here after waiting for so long. best Kate

Beth said...

Take tim to mourn, sweetie. I have had to say no too.

Somewhere your child(ren) are waiting for you.

baggage said...

I am sorry. I know how hard it is to say no.