I'm glad y'all think that CPS is kinda nutty, too, with the speed of Huckle's adoption. While I was talking to Huck's CW, I started giggling because I kept thinking, "How stupid does his supervisor think we are?" I mean, the state has been involved with him since forty five minutes after he was born, but no one can answer questions like which hospital he was born in or if he was full-term. I might be a sucker for this kid, but there's no chance that we'll go into an adoption without making total pains in the asses of ourselves to the first person who tries to blow sunshine up our skirts. I used to work at a car dealership -- I know what liars sound like, even if they are very nice liars who are lying for a reason they think is for the best.
Thank you for all your comments today. It was rough going, and even though I'd sometimes rather not have a record of how much this stuff sucks, well, an outlet was needed. I appreciate the advice from people who have done this and from people who understand what's behind all of this.
Here's some recent assvice I've gotten that hasn't been as helpful.
1. Just do fun things with him! Then he'll like you!
2. Throw away all the photographs of his mom, and don't talk about her. He's 3. He'll forget.
3. All kids like one parent more than the other.
4. He's 3. How bad can he be?
5. You decided to be foster parents. What did you expect?
And that's why everyone sucks. Except you, dear, dear, internets :)
A few footnotes:
Remember when Huckle was having night terrors? Not night terrors. Ear infection. Not caught then by the doc, only noticed on Tuesday when I took him in for prescription refills and had the doc check his ears because he has a cold. So, um, month old ear infection. No damage to the ear canal, but still a buildup of fluid. Oh, the shame.
We asked Huckle's CW if we could send a letter to Huck's family. We know their rights were terminated for reasons, but still, we have their child. I want them to at least know that he is safe and loved. As I've said before, we probably won't have time to wait 15 years. Huck's CW told us that, for our safety, we may not contact them at all.