Yay for you guys. I'm so glad I'm not alone in the whole "she's a crazy bitch" line of thought.
I did let our SW know about it after it happened. Her response was basically, "Whew, aren't you glad he doesn't live with her?" And I do consider Huck's balls-out running away to be normal little boy behavior -- My brother was born when I was 11, and he was the kind of kid that, each day, you'd thank the stars that he survived another one. Huck is just as high energy, but not as terrifying as my brother was.
As I mentioned, the whole ass-chewing happened about six weeks ago, and at the time I was scared to death. I have only been back to the school three times since then, since right after it happened Hub started working from home and since then he's been in charge of the to-school-and-back action. For whatever reasons, it is no big deal when Daddy brings him to school and leaves him there, but it is traumatic and horrible when I do it. So that change has worked well, and at the same time it has kept me from physically assaulting the SDC.
I am going to the auction, though, mostly because I decided to donate about $500 worth of items and I want to see how they do. See, this goes into the part of my mind that is twisty and manipulative -- I'm furious with SDC, I want her to know how upset I am eventually, but first I want to become someone they'd love to retain at their school next year, so that I can hurt her a bit more. Yeah. To feel like I'm screwing her by leaving, I have to make her like me or something. Not too proud of that, I don't pull this sort of thing often, but I'm quite bitter about the whole situation.
The whole thing just sucked. Mostly because it plays into my vulnerability as Huck's mom, and into my notion that I'm somehow at fault for his resistance to me.